When the Timing is Wrong

Have...Have you ever felt like you found someone you could really enjoy being with, but it was the wrong timing? Or perhaps, like an illusion, it stirs your heart to action, even if you are not sure if it's real or not. Confusion is the result of most illusions, so should we be confused, or should we find out if the illusion is real? Would it be right?

The aches of such timing can eat away at the heart if not dealt properly, it has been known to cause individuals to do the oddest and even the most dumbest of things. Your mind and heart struggle at what should be done...so what should be done? Do we act on our emotions, or do we do what is right and honorable?

Seeing that life is about the choices we make regarding the decisions that come our way, the best thing to do, though you may not “feel” like it, is to be integrous, or have integrity. Do what is right, even though the attraction may be strong (perhaps it is easier for her than it is for you).

There is a story in the Bible that reminds me of such “wonderfully awesome” feelings between a couple that fell for each other at the wrong time. The first was the greatest of Kings of the Israelites, King David. And the other a beautiful and breath taking women named Bathsheba - kind of like someone I know.

Kind David was a great and God fearing man, who is known for being a man after God’s own heart. But when he saw Bathsheba in all her wonders, he desired to be with her, and most likely she with him. The problem, however, was that she was already taken – married, to one of the officers in King David’s Army.

They could have left it at an attraction, or even just being friends, but they took it too far and slept with each other. It was wrong and King David and she knew it. In fact, King David got her pregnant. I won’t get into the rest of the story between them, but I will say that this act of betrayal led to murder.

When you find yourself in this situation, keep your heart still, and stay away from the person if you absolutely cannot control yourself. If you are able to, if you desire to be friends, then keep it that way. Perhaps if Kind David waited, things would have worked out later, but because of their impatience, death was the only result. Just like you and I, when we stumble upon these times, be patient and wait to see how things play out. If it were meant to be, then the two of you will have that chance to be happy together. If not, then at least a friendship and knowing that you are loved, even as a friend, or even at a distance, would have come out of this situation.

Be strong and love the one you’re with, but if you can’t then perhaps it is time to move on...

Making it through when the timing is wrong,

Ikaika Mossman