dating edge: wearing a purple hat "backwards"

Dating Edge: Wearing a purple hat "backwards"

I may be reading the trends wrong, but, as of lately, it seems that being "different" is the new trend. This is what gives us the edge in showing the world around us that we are unique. In fact, by "wearing a purple hat 'bacwards,'" while everyone else is conforming, a new identity is born - thus they are different and unique.

Don't get me wrong, I am for different - it's good in general. People should be able to express themselves in unique ways, because face it, we are all unique. But what bothers me about this trend is that there are people who seem to be soo caught up in trying to be different, that they actually leave what is unique about them and begin to conform to "wearing a purple hat 'backwards.'" Does this make any sense?

Dating can become competitive, no, in fact, it is competitive, many of us are scurrying about finding the one that best compliments who we are. I think that saying 'many of us' is a bit shy of the total. I'll try again. The entire human race is scurrying about looking for their mate (I don't know if you have realized this but that's a lot of people).

(Random fact: Did you know that every 1 out of 5 people is Chinese? On a global scale, statistically, the Chinese are our biggest competition.)

In the world of dating we are all putting our best foot forward; we are looking for our edge. This dating edge gives us an advantage over the competition, or so it should. People want to stand out, look different, think different, and just over all be different from the masses. They begin wearing a purple hat backwards.

At first this works and they gain more attention from whomever. But this new trend will just last for a moment, and because it's a trend, the new 'uniqueness' about you will soon fade into an "everybody's doing it now...and their mom" kind of thing. However, it's not only that, but even more un-understandable, is when they push their dating edge of wearing a purple hat backwards too far.

The other day I stood back and glanced over a girl who was wearing neon pink stockings with a large diamond black mesh over it, a short yellow skirt, and a very "unique" black top that looked like the edges of the sleeves and bottom of the shirt was mauled by ninety starving wolverines, with her friends, flirting with this guy. Did I mention that she was wearing a purple hat "backwards"? Seriously!

I could be wrong about her conforming to being different, but it made me wonder: At times, do we try so hard to be different, while in that process of having an edge over the competition, that we actually lose our true uniqueness in the process?

It's something to think about, being true to who you are, there is nothing wrong with asking yourself "why do I do this?", or "why do I do that?". Are you trying too hard to be unique, or is wearing a purple hat "backwards" truly apart of who you are?

A very long way to say be yourself and don't over try being unique,

Ikaika Mossman