Butterflies and Smiles

Butterflies and Smiles

Do you ever wonder what causes someone to admire, fall “in-love,” or fall head over heels for another person? Or why after spending such a brief amount of time with a particular individual, it becomes almost impossible to not think about them? Is it their looks, the way they treat you, their personality, or unseen matching chemical balance? Whatever it may be for you, the two results that we undeniably share are butterflies and smiles.

Close your eyes, still your heart, picture the persons face...butterflies and smiles, butterflies and smiles. It can’t be helped that the feeling of butterflies occurs, or in that warm blissful moment a lingering smile takes shape and forms. Thinking about the person’s smile brings an instant sense of peace; helps put your day at ease. Beauty, a work of art that was carefully prepared by the maker himself, that is like the unfolding of a butterfly - from the cocoon to the splendor of all they were meant to be. As time goes on she continues to dazzle and bloom, like a flower that will never wilt or lose its wonder. Such thoughts bring about feelings of butterflies and smiles.

Words seem to lose its usefulness, and most certainly, does not seem to grasp the entirety of “butterflies and smiles.” In fact, our language actually shows its limitations when we attempt to describe what it is, or what it is not. Does this make words useless or less important? Certainly not, words are a great way to express yourself, communication is key, but it works best with accompanying actions. In the same way that faith works best with works, so does words work best with actions (really, it’s just about the same thing).

When you have “butterflies and smiles” for someone don’t lose it. To care so much, to be able to look past all faults, to desire the best for the person, to see only the beauty, this is precious, and this is what “butterflies and smiles” should be. As time ticks away, we will unwittingly begin to hold on to the wrongs, the hurts, and it will eat away at the love that was once there. Love will turn into grudges and eventually distaste, or even hate, because we forgot to forgive – to let go and move past a hurtful incident and recon ciliate. What was once beautiful becomes overgrown with weeds of distrust and spite, turning this breath taking garden into the neighbor’s unkempt lawn.

If you have lost your “butterflies and smiles” for the one you’re with, especially if you are married, it is time to get out the weed whacker. It is time to do some gardening and pull out the roots of distrust and unforgiveness. And if for some reason you are not able to do this, hopefully not just because you don’t want to put in the effort, then perhaps it is time to end a dragging relationship. It would be my suggestion that first you would remember what it was about the person you’re with that once gave you feelings of butterflies, and soft smiles on your face.

Let go of the past, worry not about the future, but enjoy the present, for certainly it is just that...a “present.” Thank you for giving me butterflies and smiles.

Learning each day,

Ikaika Mossman