True Love

True love...

What is true love? Is it something that exists just in the hearts and minds of those who with lofty hearts and optimistic views? What about finding such a person, is there just one out there for you who fits your personality, who can love you for you without ulterior motives and desires?

For anyone who has thought that they found the "love" of their life and then had their heart torn asunder, the answer is usually a hesitant yes, or a complete no. I've been down that path, and yet here I am, still believing in true love. Perhaps though my view and perspective on true love is different from the usual thoughts, and this is why I can say that.

Well, to start we should probably define what love is? How do you view love? Is it the feeling of butterflies in your stomach when you finally get to meet the girl you've only known from afar? Is it being held by the man who holds your heart ever so gently?

Webster defines love as this:

1 a (1): strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (2): attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3): affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests

People love love, that's why they write about it, sing songs professing it, create poems, and engage in "chick-flicks" with their girlfriends and boyfriends. It's pretty popular, and simply put it is good - love that is.

Love is the choices we make that show others patience, forgiveness, that gives others feelings of joy and happiness, it is putting others before yourself. More than feelings, it is the choices that create good.

With that said, is there such thing as true love?

Yes, truly I believe that there is. Why? Because it exists when we choose for it to exist. Love is a choice. There are different degrees of love: Love for friends, love for family, co-workers, and the person you've chosen to be committed to. To have true love, to truly love, you have to makes the choices that will make that kind of love possible. Love doesn't just happen, it is based on the choices we make, and the choices that others make.

Hopefully by saying all of this it is easy to recognize that there is more than just one person out there who could be your true love. Seriously, if there was only just one person out there in the world who could love you for you, then it would just take one "wrong couple" to mess up the entire world. Yeah, I don't think so.

Well, that'll be all for now. Hope you learn how to make the choices necessary for true love to exist in your life, for the one you truly love...whenever they are and whenever you meet.

for true love,

Ika