Monday, August 6, 2012

Be open to change

    I know that to have a successful relationship you need to be open to change. Change is what allows a person to grow, it is a crucial and critical ingredient. Change...

    Everytime something goes wrong in my relationship, I know that change has to occur (mostly that I have to change). But how easy it is to forget, especially in the middle of an argument, that change needs to happen to allow the relationship to proceed forward.

Today my fiance and I started on the wrong foot. She woke up a grump, and I woke up ready and excited to get the day going.

Now when I was younger I was pretty good at dodgeball, but even and I have a limit on how long I can play. And at the end of my strength, I started being grumpy back... which I know was not the best course of action.

It was only some small remarks here and there to begin with, because I kept regaining strength I could hold back again.

Several times I thought I would lose all control, while looking up and praying to God for strength. Finally, at the end, before she had to go to work, I asked her to pray with me (though my smart remarks did not end there...it stopped when we finished praying).

But I look back now and think to myself, ”Really? I waited until she left to pray with her and finally be right with each other and God?!”

If you or your loved one, parent, or friend find each other ready to claw eyes out, or box until someone gets knocked out...May I suggest first praying together to start off with? Starting your day not on what the other person does or does not do, but on who God is and what he had done for us.

Don't start in your strength, but start in God's. Be weak to His desires and God will be strong for you both. His grace is enough...and so is His strength.

So be open to change, and in this case, quick change, or you may find yourself wasting a day, struggling throughout a day, or worse...alone at the end of the day.